She: Glad you're back.
Me: I keep waking up full of stories. I keep not writing them down.
She: What's holding you back?
Me: I want them to be finished in my head before I start writing. I want to know where they are going.
She: You were enjoying just writing whatever came up, when it came up.
Me: I wasn't exactly enjoying it! Well, I was a bit I suppose. I was experimenting and it was strangely exhilarating, and very interesting what I was remembering, and realising about those memories. But it felt really out of control, dangerous.
She: And a little bit fun? It's good for you to write like that, without a plan or target to hit. You will get to enjoy it. I guarantee that.
Me: I read the whole thing yesterday for the first time.
She: I know. How was that?
Me: I thought it was good. I thought it was funny and sad and honest and meaningful.
She: It is. Keep writing. It's so good for your spirit. So good.
Me: And now I'm sitting here wondering what next? What stories? There are so so many. Stories about the Ward girls, the nanas (who could easily have a whole book each), the family outings, picnics, holidays. The food. The Christmasses, weddings, funerals. Pat and Jim O'Brien, aunty Win and uncle Jack Elder (Gin and Wack), Uncle grandad (our dead granddad's brother, Jim) and aunty Muriel and their son Neville (Devil). And more stories about mum and dad.
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So now it's taking a huge effort to stay here and write. I get this pressure in my chest. It's so solid and heavy. I just want to get up and do something busy, like clean the house or dig the garden, run the dog... if I was still drinking, I'd want a drink to bring me back down to a relaxed level. It's anxiety. It is so obvious now. It's really good to be able to see it, know what it is, and be curious about it.
A broken leg -- Polly
We were in Gore, visiting mum and dad's friends Tony and Jan Fosbender. Tony worked in the Gore branch of the same company as dad. He was small, wiry, with a squeaky voice. I think he had a moustache. He was small, and dapper in a grungy sort of way. Jan was large, loud, with died orange hair. They were not like any other friends mum and dad had. They weren't Catholics for starters. They weren't related to us either. And they didn't have children. They were an odd fit for family friends. I don't know why they were friends at all, but we drove the 40 miles to Gore to visit them occasionally, and dad and Tony would drink flagon beer, mum and Jan would have sherry, and Jan would make an uncomfortable fuss of us because she really wanted children but didn't have any.
Polly wasn't a baby, but wasn't walking yet. She could nearly sit up, so was probably 6 or 7 months old. I was 5. She was in the kitchen and I wanted to carry her into the lounge where the others were, because she was having trouble crawling on the lino floor. Jan's kitchen floor was legendary for its shine. I always asked before I did anything new, so I asked if I could pick her up and carry her out of the kitchen.
First I had to practice they said. It was agreed that a big bag of salt from the pantry would by a good Polly substitute for me to carry, to prove I could do it. I passed the salt test with flying colours, and went back into the kitchen with permission to carry Polly. I got her up into my arms, but as soon as I took a step towards the lounge I slipped and fell, and dropped her -- and broke her leg.
Polly ended up with her lovely little leg in a heavy plaster. The up-side of that was that suddenly she could sit up good and proper, because she was weighed down by the ankle to thigh plaster. The down side was that for a while after the plaster was taken off, she would fall backwards and hit her head on the floor, because she'd come to rely in the weight of the plaster to hold her up.
This was told as a funny-haha family story, and I was grateful for that. I wasn't harassed or shamed over dropping Polly. I was never allowed to forget it, but it was a light-hearted thing, not a guilt thing. I do remember being shocked when my feet shot out from underneath me like they did. And I do remember one kind adult saying something like "that was Jan's fault for having such a shiny floor." It wasn't traumatic for me. It probably was for Polly.
If you were to take the family photos as a true record, I always had a baby under my arm, from age three to thirteen. Uncle Jim often said that he'd not seen me as a child without a baby latched on to me. I was very sure, from a very early age, that my job was to look out for my sisters. It was a job I took very seriously, and usually I did it well. But not always.
Lots of blood -- Julie
Obviously, it wasn't my fault that Julie got a cut on her head when she fell off the back of Mr Hunt's trailer. How could it be? But I was supposed to be "keeping an eye out" for the girls, and I had to bring her home with blood gushing out the side of her head, and deal with mum's hysterics, which were pretty dramatic.
Mr Hunt was the father next door, Mrs Hunt's husband, and the Hunt kids' dad. He was a builder. They weren't Catholics (so they didn't go to the same school as us), and they weren't related to us. We played with the kids anyway, but I don't remember the adults having that much more to do with each other than a hello over the back fence.
Mr Hunt drove a car with a trailor attached, for carrying his tools and wood to work. He would stop at the corner of Patterson and Harvey St, and the kids from the street would pile on the back of the trailor and get a ride the half block to the Hunt house. Then they'd all pile off before he went in the drive. That's when Julie's head got dinged. She jumped off the trailor, and someone else (probably Trevor Hunt, same age as Julie) jumped off just after her, knocked her over and scraped her head.
Julie got hauled off to hospital and came home with a cool big bandage around her head. It was only a small cut but such a lot of blood. Now I know head wounds bleed dramatically, even if there's just a little cut. This was dramatic. I felt terrible. That day I did a really bad job of keeping an eye out for the girls.
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